Building dating from the beginning
The first thing that should happen if it has not happened during the initiation of the relationship is that intentions should be established.Whatever that conversation looks like, intentions should be clear and it should be the man making them so.Can you give me some ideas about how to find someone that I can trust and when I can decide that it is okay to let down my guard.Congratulations to you, Tara, for recognizing that you want to go more slowly and be more careful before beginning a new romantic relationship.Before continuing with this column, please review the preamble included at the beginning of this series, "Biblical Dating: How It's Different From Modern Dating." * * * PART 3: Just Friends » As Christians in dating relationships, we want to avoid hurting one another and dishonoring Christ by "defrauding" (see NASB translation of 1 Thessalonians 4:6) our brothers and sisters in Christ by implying — through word or action — a higher level of commitment to that person than we have made before God.Because this sort of (perhaps unintentional) deception is a particular temptation in a dating context, we need to be deliberate about avoiding it.
Have you chosen the same kind of person only with a little different look? The guys that I go out with either end up leaving me or have some problems like pot, alcohol or dating several at the same time but not letting me in on this.Trusting a new person is hard and yet I really want a new relationship.Are you always with someone that you have to “fix” or take care of?Do you tend to choose men who are romantic and exciting but with no history of commitment? We offer online counseling by phone and by email and would be glad to work with you in more detail about your specific situation.